October/November Newsletter
BMS Counseling Department
- Upcoming Dates and Reminders - October
- Upcoming Dates and Reminders - November
- In October we are celebrating:
- Communicate with Your Kids Month
- In November we are celebrating days that showcase Gratitude, Kindness, Giving and Tolerance.
- SEAL Class Updates
- Nashoba Valley Technical School
- Private School Information
- Community Resources
- Articles, Webinars, and Resources for Students/Caregivers
- Social Media Awareness
- PowerSchool
- Requesting Parent/Team Meetings
October is Communicate with Your Kids Month
This month promotes and spreads awareness about the importance of communicating with your kids. Effective communication is a very important life skill. It is important that we nurture our children's communication skills, so they are capable of expressing themselves effectively and confidently in all aspects of their life. Parents who communicate with their kids often build a great relationship with them and send the message that they value their thoughts and feelings. Furthermore, communication skills are crucial for learning, as children need these skills to make friends, learn, and let people know what they want. Communication is the foundation of all healthy relationships. As children grow older, they will need strong communication skills in order to be independently successful; good communication skills are listed among the most desirable skills in nearly every job description.
There are 3 very easy and effective ways you can impart these skills onto your children:
1. Communicate to them and listen to them when they communicate to you.
2. Have a daily connection.
3. Spend time with them.
Better ways to talk with your tween or teen when they go silent
How to communicate with your tween or teen (and why that’s so hard)
November Awareness Days
The themes that arise in the month on November are Gratitude, Kindness, Giving and Tolerance. Therefore, we are recognizing days in November that celebrate these themes:
November 7-11 - Solidarity Week
Solidarity Week is dedicated to supporting and deepening our understanding of others regardless of their differences and raising awareness of the injustices that people in our society experience. It is important that we recognize and understand that we all don’t share the same risks, and we must work across all differences to ensure that everyone has the right to a safe, supportive, and inclusive environment.
November 13 - World Kindness Day
World Kindness Day is a global observance dedicated to promoting and celebrating acts of kindness. This day serves as a reminder that small acts of kindness can have a significant impact. This day encourages people to practice kindness in their daily lives. It highlights the importance of empathy, understanding, and cooperation to create a more compassionate and caring world.
November 16 - International Day for Tolerance
Established by the United Nations in order to recognize societies are ever more diverse – but intolerance is growing in many places. Tolerance is much more than passively accepting others. Tolerance encompasses the obligation to act, teach, reinforce, and nurture. We should try to understand the perspectives of others, develop a dialogue and build a mutual understanding, culminating in a peaceful co-existence.
November 18 - Family Volunteer Day
Celebrates the power of families to work together to support their communities and the people in them. During this time of year, it is important to celebrate our gratitude by giving back to others which has a positive impact on our society.
November 24 - Random Acts of Kindness Friday
According to research, spreading kindness not only helps others feel better about themselves, it can also boost our health and happiness. It’s a win-win for all. Random acts of kindness should be celebrated daily. Take time to think about how you feel when you perform or receive an act of kindness. Small acts can have big positive impacts.
SEAL CLASS UPDATES
SEAL (Social Emotional Academic Learning) is a trimester long Enrichment class that each School Counselor teaches to their assigned grade. Every student at BMS takes SEAL each year.
GRADE 6
In SEAL the theme for 6th grade is "Growth Mindset", having the ability to continuously learn, grow and develop skills. Students explore this theme through a variety of units.
Through a growth mindset lens, 6th graders explore learning as a lifelong enjoyment, their identity as learners, developing positive relationships, and exploring their use and effects of technology in their lives.
GRADE 7
The main focus of 7th grade SEAL is learning about and understanding stress in order to
manage it effectively in our lives.
Click here for a more in depth explanation of what your students are learning!
GRADE 8
In SEAL the theme for 8th grade is "Finding Your Own Path". Students explore this theme through a variety of units.
Career Exploration
During this unit students have the chance to take a career inventory and then explore careers of their choice. The students investigate their strengths, skills, job skills needed, job responsibilities, and academic courses and extracurricular activities that can be used to explore their particular areas of interest.
Success
Students brainstorm why success is important in their lives, their personal definition of success, how they measure success, and what skills are important for life-long success.
Goal Setting
As a class, students discuss the reason behind having goals and the importance of setting goals. Students learn how to conceptualize and develop SMART goals and have the opportunity to write their own goals: an academic/school goal and another goal of their choice.
High School Exploration
Students begin to explore the opportunities available to them in high school. They have the chance to look at different areas of study, academic planning tools, time management tools, sports, clubs, and other extracurricular opportunities available at the high school level.
Nashoba Valley Technical High School
On Friday 9/29/23, we held an assembly to introduce all of our eighth graders to the opportunities Nashoba Valley Technical High School has to offer for high school.
As a follow-up to this presentation, NVTHS and our counseling staff coordinated a field trip to tour NVTHS Friday 10/13. This trip was open to any student who is seriously considering attending/applying NVTHS for ninth grade.
NVTHS is also hosting an Open House on November 5th from 12:00 to 3:00 p.m.
Students who are applying to NVTHS should be in communication with Mrs. McCoy as early in the year as possible. The application deadline is 1/15/2024.
For more information on Nashoba Tech's programs or admissions, please contact Nashoba Tech directly:
Private and Technical School Applications
It is very important that any student interested in applying to a private or technical high school inform Mrs. McCoy by December 1.
Mrs. McCoy will be having individual meetings with students applying to private or technical schools to discuss the application process and answer any questions.
***IMPORTANT***
All students applying should notify their teachers and their school counselor by December 1st for January/February deadlines and one month in advance for any deadlines before then. All formal recommendation and transcript requests from the schools to which students are applying should be received by DECEMBER 1st for January/February deadlines and one month in advance for any deadlines before then.
Please see the document below for further information on applying to a Private or Technical school.
Webinar on school avoidance and anxiety-- the recording can be found HERE.
NATIONAL ALLIANCE ON MENTAL ILLNESS, NAMI
NAMI Ending the Silence: Learn about the warning signs of mental health conditions and what steps to take if you or a loved one are showing symptoms of a mental health condition. This presentation is designed for parents/guardians and family members of K-12 students. Presentations include two leaders: one who shares an informative presentation and a young adult with a mental health condition who shares their journey of recovery. Audience members can ask questions and gain an understanding of an often-misunderstood topic. Through dialogue, we can help grow the movement to end stigma.
If interested in attending please register by emailing Brittany Nash, bnash@westfordma.gov
Date: Tuesday, November 14, 2023
Time: 7:00 PM-8:15 PM
Location: J.V. Fletcher Library 50 Main Street, Westford
THE SALVATION ARMY ANGEL TREE APPLICATION FOR CHRISTMAS ASSISTANCE
Christmas assistance for families in need. The Salvation Army Angel Tree program helps provide Christmas gifts for hundreds of thousands of children around the country each year.
For more information and to start an application, Click Here.
This is time sensitive and they do have limited capacity.
INTERFACE Changes
10/24 – 7 pm-8 pm - BIPOC Affinity Focus Group - Sign Up/Join HERE
*These meetings are a safe space for parents to process their own emotions as they support their child's mental wellness and where you can share & receive support from others who may be going through similar experiences.
How to talk to children about traumatic events
The current Middle Eastern Conflict, as well as the recent situation in Lewiston, ME, has brought upon many different emotions within each of us, and our children as well. Our primary goal as a school community is to support our students and each other. Our students need to feel safe at school both physically and emotionally. We encourage students to seek out counselors, or other trusted adults if they need individual support. In addition, if you believe that your child may benefit from additional support, please reach out to your child's School Counselor. Lastly, it is important to continue monitoring your child's online activity to help manage their access to age appropriate content.
Here are some resources to help families navigate conversations with your child. Please do not hesitate to reach out to your counselor if you would like to discuss this further.
GUIDE - Helping Children Cope After a Traumatic Event
How to Talk to Kids About What’s Happening in Israel and Gaza Right Now
How to talk to children about traumatic current events and media exposure
Supporting Youth Affected by the Violence in Israel and Gaza: Tips for Families and Educators
bryt Family Engagement Team
Click on the image to view the full 2023-2024 bryt Family Engagement Team calendar. The calendar provides links to recordings of the FREE Monthly Virtual Speaker Series for 2023-2024.
Learn from community members with expertise in areas most requested by parents.
Parents Learning with Parents (PLP)
FREE Virtual Speaker Series for ALL CAREGIVERS of students in K-12
IMPORTANT THINGS TO KNOW:
FREE ~ VIRTUAL ~ OPEN TO ALL
Parents/caregivers are not on camera -- only the speaker is
Parents/caregivers have the option of typing questions into chat
NOVEMBER 7th- 4 pm-5 pm (PST) - 7 pm-8 pm (EST)
"Communicating Around Conflict: Big Feelings & Hot Tempers"
*Listen to our panel discussion and Q&A about this parenting dilemma.
Social Media Awareness
Here are some top Technology Trends for Teens and Tweens and what you need to know:
The nonprofit research organization Common Sense Media, found that overall screen use among teens and tweens increased by 17 percent from 2019 to 2021.
On average, daily screen use went up among tweens (ages 8 to 12) to five hours and 33 minutes from four hours and 44 minutes, and to eight hours and 39 minutes from seven hours and 22 minutes for teens (ages 13 to 18).
Social media use among children ages 8 to 12, on platforms such as Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook, has also increased dramatically even though such platforms require users to be at least 13 because of a law that prohibits companies from collecting data from children.
Some concerns include:
Decreased time on other activities: time with family and friends, sleep, other non-technology hobbies
Exposure to graphic or scary content that kids are not developmentally ready to see
Misinformation
Unhealthy exposure to social complexities intrinsic to social media
See Here for full article
Keeping teens safe on social media: What parents should know to protect their kids
PowerSchool
Not sure how to access your student's schedule and/or Progress Report? Please see below:
- Use your device (Go to: https://westford.powerschool.com/public).
- Download the 'PowerSchool Mobile' app on your phone - see image on the right for how to access your account. Once logged on, click on the "My Schedule" icon in the left nav and you'll see your student's schedule.
Requesting a Parent/Team Meeting
Please use the link below to email the School Counseling Department for assistance in setting up a 20 minute meeting with your child's core teachers (Math, Science, Social Studies and Language Arts, School Counselor). Meetings take place on certain days of the week based on teacher planning time, the grade and cycle day of the week. If you would like any additional Blanchard teacher or staff member to attend, please note that in the appropriate field as well. Thank you.
Click this LINK to request a 20 minute parent/team meeting. We will respond to your request very soon.
If you have any questions or concerns, please contact Jennifer Schaffer at 978-692-5582 x 6172 or at jschaffer@westfordk12.us
BMS Counseling Department
Paige Leone - 6th Grade School Counselor
Lisa Searl - 7th Grade School Counselor
Julie McCoy - 8th Grade School Counselor
Jodie Voutselas - 6-8 School Adjustment Counselor
Jen Schaffer - School Counseling Administrative Assistant
Website: https://sites.google.com/westfordk12.us/bmsguidance/school-counseling-home
Location: 14 West Street, Westford, MA 01886
Phone: (978) 692-5582