Counseling Corner (December)
ALDRIDGE ELEMENTARY SCHOOL COUNSELING SERVICES
ALDRIDGE ELEMENTARY SCHOOL: COMPREHENSIVE SCHOOL COUNSELING PROGRAM
Mission Statement
The mission of the Aldridge Elementary School Counseling Program is to provide a proactive, comprehensive, and developmentally appropriate program to address students' academic, social/emotional and college/career goals. Thorough, partnership with parents/guardians, staff, and community members we will produce lifelong learners and enable all students to become successful, productive citizens in a diverse and changing world.
Vision Statement
The Aldridge Elementary School Counseling Program will empower all students to reach their maximum potential by using a comprehensive program that addresses academic, personal/social, and career goals. We will promote an environment to encourage personal inquiry and growth, social responsibility, and academic excellence. I believe that every student can succeed through the collaborative efforts of school, home, and community leading to responsible and productive citizenship in the 21st century.
WORDS FROM THE COUNSELOR
Dealing with Grief during the Holiday Season
“The holidays are times spent with our loved ones.” This has been imprinted on our psyche from a young age. Holidays mark the passage of time in our lives. They are part of the milestones we share with each other and they generally represent time spent with family. But since holidays are for being with those we love the most, how on earth can anyone be expected to cope with them when a loved one has died? For many people, this is the hardest part of grieving, when we miss our loved ones even more than usual. How can we celebrate togetherness when there is none?
When you lose someone special, your world lacks its celebratory qualities. Holidays magnify that loss. The sadness deepens and the loneliness can feel isolating. The need for support may be the greatest during the holidays. Pretending you don’t hurt and/or it isn’t a harder time of the year is just not the truth for you. But you can – and will – get through the holidays. Rather than avoiding the feelings of grief, lean into them. It is not the grief you want to avoid, it is the pain. No one can take that pain away, but grief is not just pain, grief is love. Please check out the video below in the newsletter if you need help navigating the holidays after the loss of a loved one.
Sending you all love and light!
Ms. Hardy
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December Guidance Lessons
Ms. Hardy will be facilitating classroom guidance lessons in all grades focusing on how to appropriately use mindfulness and making healthy choices, physically and emotionally.
THEME: HEALTH AND LITERACY AWARENESS
Building Social Emotional Skills
Children grow and develop rapidly in their first five years across the four main areas of development. These areas are motor (physical), communication and language, cognitive, and social and emotional.
Social and emotional development means how children start to understand who they are, what they are feeling and what to expect when interacting with others. It is the development of being able to:
- Form and sustain positive relationships.
- Experience, manage and express emotions.
- Explore and engage with the environment.
Positive social and emotional development is important. This development influences a child’s self-confidence, empathy, the ability to develop meaningful and lasting friendships and partnerships, and a sense of importance and value to those around him/her. Children’s social and emotional development also influences all other areas of development.
December Skills Focus include:
- Pre-K - 1st Gr.: Self-Management & Self-Awareness
- 2nd & 3rd: Self-Management & Self-Awareness
- 4th-5th: Self-Awareness & Self-Management
Strategies to Help Children with Anxiety
1. "Write it Out"
- Journal about worries: Take 15 minutes a day to journal about things that are upsetting to them. Once they are done have them read it aloud and see if they can figure out a solution. For little one who cannot write, parents should help them get their idea down and figure out a solution.
- Create “worry time”— Set aside a designated “worry time” for 10-15 minutes on a daily basis. Choose the same time each day and the same spot and allow your child to write down their worries without worrying about what actually constitutes a worry. When the time is up, have them drop the worries in a box, say goodbye to them, and move on to a new activity.
2. "Have a debate(with yourself)"
Talk to your worry—Personification of a worry allows children to feel as though they have control over it. By giving anxiety a face and a name, the logical brain takes over and begins to place limitations on the stressor. For young children, you can create a worry doll or character for them that represents worry. Next time a worried thought arises, have your child try to teach the doll why they shouldn’t worry.
3. "Self-Soothing"
Give yourself a hug—Physical touch releases oxytocin, a feel-good hormone, and reduces the stress hormone cortisol in the bloodstream. The next time your child feels anxious, have her stop and give herself a warm hug.
Rub your ears— Have them begin by lightly tracing the outline of their outer ear several times. Then using gentle pressure, have them place their thumbs on the back of the ears and the forefingers on the front. Have them count to five and then move their finger and thumb downward to a point just below where they started. Have your child repeat the process until they have squeezed both earlobes for five seconds each.
4. "Use your Body"
Stretch— Studies have shown that children who practice yoga not only experience the uplifting benefits of exercise, but also maintain those benefits long after they are done with their practice. The process of slow, methodical stretching can provide many of the same benefits.
Celebrating Unique Differences
Sing 2 (Rated G) Kindergarten-1
Vivo (Rated G) 2nd-3rd Grade
Vivo follows a one-of-kind kinkajou (aka a rainforest "honey bear") who spends his days playing music to the crowds in a lively square with his beloved owner Andrés. Though they don't speak the same language, Vivo and Andrés are the perfect duo through their common love of music.
Leo (Rated PG) 4th-5th Grades
Children Dealing with Grief and Loss
Grief is a complex emotional process for anyone, regardless of their age or stage in life. But exploring the reality of death with a child or teenager can prove particularly challenging. It’s hard enough to know how to help yourself, much less determine what to say and how to comfort a child coping with grief. So where do you start?
The process of learning to live with the reality of loss looks different for every individual, so children will exhibit different reactions depending on their personality, age, and developmental stage. Because many children are new to loss, you might be surprised when they have a grief reaction to an individual with whom they weren’t particularly close. It’s important to validate this emotional process, rather than simply advising a child to “get over it.” It’s important to be as patient as possible, and to look closely for changes in behavior and mood. Remember grief and loss is not only subject to human loved ones who have passed away, it can include: death of pets, divorce, incarceration or being removed from their homes.
Your child might be having a particularly difficult time with the grieving process if you notice any of these behaviors:
· Changes in sleep or eating patterns
· Regression to younger behaviors, such as separation anxiety
· Talk about wanting to be with the deceased person
· Lack of interest in playing with friends
· Changes in grades or school behavior
· Loss of interest in activities that once excited them
Here are a few parenting tips to help your child navigate grief and loss:
1. Use Creative Expression (let them draw or act out emotions)
2. Find Opportunities to Build Relationships (explore opportunities to have them build relationships with someone they feel who understands their emotions.)
3. Tell the Truth (Model honesty and openness about loss, and your child will emerge more resilient from the experience.)
Great Activities and Books to Help Children Deal with Grief/Loss
https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1u5nAKz7YikV79zrOE-E8mPL8fjDucCz6pNRz3q7kc_U/edit?usp=sharing