Challenge Assumptions
Building Neuroaffirming Classrooms

Challenge Assumptions
We've come to our 6th and final step in building neuroaffirming classrooms: Challenge Assumptions.
This step is essential because the history of how autism has been understood and portrayed is long, complex, and often troubling. (If you want a powerful deep dive into this history, I highly recommend NeuroTribes by Steve Silberman.) Many of our students, especially those with complex communication or regulation differences, have been underestimated simply because their strengths and needs aren’t immediately visible.
This is why our advocacy matters. We play a critical role in interrupting misconceptions, amplifying our students’ strengths, and reshaping the stories others may tell about autism. This is particularly true for students with the greatest support needs, whose voices are often the most misunderstood or overlooked.
When I was teaching, I spent several years as a mentor for a student-teaching residency program. These aspiring teachers joined my classroom four days a week for an entire school year. They came in with big hearts and the very best intentions! However, many felt unsure at first about how to build relationships and what those relationships might look like with students with differing communication and interaction styles.
I always reminded them: Give it time. Stay curious. Keep showing up.
And sure enough, by the end of each year, every single one of those teachers had developed beautiful, authentic, meaningful relationships with our students. These relationships were built through shared moments, patient listening, and discovering each student’s unique and valid way of communicating. If they hadn't challenged their initial assumptions, and instead held onto the belief that connection wasn’t possible, they would have missed out on some of the most powerful relationships and the most rewarding career experiences. Many of these incredible educators went on to pursue positions in similar classrooms. (Shout-out to all of them—they’re doing incredible things!)
But What About Everyone Else?
These aspiring teachers were ready to learn, grow, and stretch themselves. They wanted to connect. But out in the broader school community, and in the world, we often encounter people who still hold outdated or limiting views about autistic students. That’s where we come in.
It’s up to us to speak up, advocate, educate, and model what it looks like to see our students through a strengths-based, neuroaffirming lens. Our students deserve environments filled with adults who assume competence, communicate respect, and genuinely believe in their capabilities.
Being Proactive: How We Challenge Assumptions Before They Take Hold
When we take a proactive approach, we lay a foundation for classrooms, schools, and communities that embrace autistic students for who they are. Here are a few ways to do this:
1. Believe in the power of yet.
If a student isn’t showing a skill today, it doesn’t mean they won’t in the future. The word yet communicates belief, hope, and the understanding that learning is a process.
Using yet in our conversations sounds like:
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“They’re not reading yet.”
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“They need help regulating; they’re not independent yet.”
This one small word tells others that we see our students as capable and growing—not fixed in their current skill level. It also shifts the responsibility back to us as educators to teach the skills they need to move forward.
2. Create opportunities for students to shine.
We can intentionally create moments where students’ strengths, interests, and abilities are visible to the school community.
One of my favorite examples is when I ran a small coffee shop with my class. Students worked on communication, functional academics, social skills, and independence—all through a meaningful, authentic activity. Even more powerful was the way staff across the building got to know and appreciate our students. They were seen, valued, and celebrated.
If a classroom business isn’t possible, simple alternatives work too:
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Send students on classroom “jobs” or errands around the building
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Have them deliver morning greetings or notes
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Display their artwork, projects, or special interests
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Let them share talents during announcements or morning meetings
The goal is visibility—helping others see the students the way you do.
3. Be mindful of our language.
How we talk about students shapes how others talk to and about them. Our language sets the tone.
Speak with respect. Presume competence. Lead by example.
When discussing challenges with colleagues, we can frame things in ways that honor the student:
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Instead of: “He ran in the hallways all morning.”
Try: “He has so much energy—right now we’re helping him find better ways to use it.” -
Instead of: “She had a rough day.”
Try: “She worked really hard today, and we’re helping her build skills to feel safe and regulated.” -
When someone expresses concern:
“Thank you for checking in. We’re working on a plan to help him feel more supported.”
This doesn’t sugarcoat anything—it reframes behavior through a compassionate, neuroaffirming lens.
4. Model curiosity instead of judgment.
Curiosity is one of the most powerful tools we have as neuroaffirming educators. When a student is overwhelmed or behaving in unexpected ways, it’s easy for others to assume the worst. But we can shift school culture simply by asking better questions.
Instead of:
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“Why is she doing that?”
Try:
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“What might be happening for her right now?”
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“What need is she trying to communicate?”
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“What changed in the environment?”
Modeling curiosity can sound like:
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“I notice he covered his ears. Maybe it’s too loud right now.”
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“I wonder if she’s tired or hungry. Let’s check in before deciding next steps.”
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“Could this be communication frustration? Let’s see what supports could help.”
Curiosity keeps the door open for understanding. Judgment closes it.
Challenging assumptions isn’t a one-time action. It’s an ongoing mindset that shapes how we show up for our students every day. When we presume competence, stay curious, and intentionally highlight our students’ strengths, we help rewrite outdated narratives about autism and create classrooms where every student is seen, valued, and believed in.
As we move into the busiest stretch of the year, let this be our grounding reminder: our students are growing, communicating, and connecting in ways that matter. And with each assumption we challenge, we make our classrooms more neuroaffirming. Not just for this season, but for all the seasons to come.
Resources
Six Actionable Steps for Building Neuroaffirming Classroom
Are you interested in learning more about neurodiversity, including best practices? Below is a great start!
Books
Uniquely Human by Dr. Barry Prizant
Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price
We're Not Broken by Eric Garcia
Podcasts
Expands the conversation on autism and neurodiversity by amplifying the voices of autistic and neurodivergent individuals and thought leaders, providing insightful, cutting-edge, and practical information about the autistic and neurodivergent experience. Hosted by Barry Prizant and Dave Finch.
The Neurodiversity Podcast talks with leaders in the fields of psychology, education, and beyond, about positively impacting neurodivergent people. Their goal is to reframe differences that were once considered disabilities or disorders, promote awareness of this unique population, and improve the lives of neurodivergent and high-ability people.
Social Media Accounts
Louise Chandler
Autistic Writer, Speaker, and Creator | Lived experience and self advocacy
Andi Putt
Autistic Speech Language Pathologist | Strategies for neuroaffirming practices and communication
Nikki Smit
Neurodivergent OT | Amazing insight into self-regulation and co-regulation
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