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What is Social and Emotional Learning?
Social and emotional learning (SEL) provides provides an array of benefits. Not only can it increase students’ academic achievement, but SEL activities can build students’ self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision making. All of these skills are important for students’ academic, social, and eventually, professional lives.
This month, Woburn Elementary School Adjustment Counselors will be teaching students about the importance of RESPONSIBILITY. We will have interactive discussions and a guided activity together. *Lessons and activities may vary from school to school*
October's Character Trait of the Month: RESPONSIBILITY
*The intention of this newsletter compiled of some quoted information is to inform parents/caregivers about the Character Trait of the Month for October, RESPONSIBILITY, and to highlight what students will be learning during our SEL lessons. Resources and at-home activities have also been compiled for parents throughout this newsletter. SEL lessons may vary depending on classroom needs and Teacher request.
Resources from your Elementary School Adjustment Counselors
Altevesta Elementary School
Location: 980 Main Street, Woburn
Email: kcarabello@woburnps.com
Phone: 1(781) 937-8235
Karen Carabello, MSW LISCW
A Little Spot of Responsibility
But It's Not My Fault
What if Everybody Did That?
Goodyear Elementary School
Kelley Calkins, MSW, LICSW
Examples of Responsibility at School
Keeping track of your backpack, jacket, and school supplies.
Turning in your homework on time.
Cleaning up your workspace and taking care of classroom materials.
Owning up to a mistake and saying sorry when you hurt someone
Read Along Books about RESPONSIBILTY
Hurld Wyman Elementary School
Location: 39 Wyman Street, Woburn
Email:bAfonso@woburnps.com
Phone: (781) 937 8243
Brunna Afonso, M.Ed
Responsibility
Whose job is it?
Make a list of jobs that are completed at home and at school (i.e., completing homework, making the bed, organizing a backpack, getting ready for school, doing classwork, cleaning their room, etc.). Students share responsibilities with parents, teachers, and other adults in their lives. We need to be clear with them about which bits and pieces are their responsibility.
Grow a plant or care for an animal
Learning how to keep something alive is one of the biggest responsibilities you can teach anyone, whether adult or child. Whether at home or in the classroom, having your kids learn how to take care of a pet or a plant can teach them the most fundamental responsibility skills. Children as young as 4 can start doing this activity.
Take responsibility for your actions
Help students to identify what to say to take responsibility for their actions. Students need a clear understanding of how to take responsibility for a mistake. Model good apologies when mistakes involve others. Apologies should have 3 parts: the “I’m sorry,” the reason why you are sorry, and a resolution like “I won’t make that mistake again”.
Simon Says
Simon Says is a classic game where a leader (“Simon”) yells out commands quickly to a group. Only commands beginning with “Simon says” should be followed. Those who do not follow these rules will be eliminated from the game. What makes this game a great activity for responsibility is that it motivates kids to think before taking action. It also teaches them that not listening is irresponsible and has certain consequences, such as getting eliminated
Linscott - Rumford Elementary School
Location: 86 Elm Street, Woburn
Email: jzeidman@woburnps.com
Phone: 781-937-8239
Jackie Zeidman, MSW, LICSW
Reeves Elementary School
Location: 240 Lexington Street, Woburn, MA
Email: mmoisan@woburnps.com
Phone: 1- 781-937-8240 x 13302
Melanie Moisan, M.Ed, LMHC
RESPONSIBILITY
Doing what needs to be done, being reliable and dependable, being accountable for your actions; not making excuses or blaming others, fulfilling your moral obligations, using good judgment, thinking through the consequences of your actions, exercising self-control.
Children's books: RESPONSIBILITY
A Friend to Trust by Scholastic
But it's not my Fault by Julie Cook
7 Habits of Happy Kids by Sean Covey
Ricky Sticky Fingers by Julia Cook
Zach Apologizes by William Mulcahy
Ready to be Responsible by Scholastic
Strategies to Encourage Personal Responsibility in Children
Clarify Roles ("Whose Job Is It?"): Discuss with kids which daily responsibilities. Help them recognize the tasks they control, such as cleaning up their things at home, making their bed, brushing their teeth and listening to the adults in the home.
Guide Ownership of Actions: When mistakes happen, guide kids through structured reflection rather than placing blame by asking questions like:
What happened?
Who else was affected?
What can you do to make this better?
Model Self Control: Teach that kids are responsible for how they react to situations. Teach them to:
Mind their own business
Keep a calm body and make smart choices
Let adults handle unexpected or unsafe behavior
Use Responsibility Charts: Try accountability tools like responsibility charts and allow kids to experience natural consequences to reinforce dependable behavior.
Shamrock Memorial Elementary School
Location: 60 Green Street, Woburn
Email: jurquhart@woburnps.com
Phone: 1- 781-937-8240
Julie Urquhart, M.Ed., LMHC SISP k-12: Specialized Instructional Support Personal
How to teach our children to be responsible...
MODEL RESPONSIBILITY
Build your own practice of responsibility within your home. Straighten things up, put things in order, pick things up, etc. As they say, more is caught than is taught. Children will pick up on your practices and start to integrate these practices in their own behavior.
LET YOUR CHLDREN HELP YOU OUT WITH SMALL JOBS
There are tasks that need to be done in our homes on a daily basis. Give your children the responsibility of some of these small tasks, like washing the dishes, taking the trash out, feeding their pet/s, cleaning a room etc...
BUILD IN A HOME JOB SYSTEM
This is similar to letting children help out, but creates a system for it.
PRAISE Children FOR BEING RESPONSIBLE
Hand out compliments willingly. If you praise children for being responsible all day long, you will have students rising to meet your expectations.
PROVIDE STRUCTURE SO THAT CHILDREN KNOW WHAT TO DO
Give clear directions and make sure your child knows your expectations. If they know what to do, they will know exactly how to show responsibility. Clear directions and plenty of scaffolding go a long way.
HAVE CLEAR CONSEQUENCES THAT MATCH THE LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY
Do they have a messy room? Clean it. Does your child not pick up what they drop on the floor? Clean it. Does your child leave their books out? Pick them up and a few more. If you have clear directions and the child knows the expectation, hold them to those expectations with clear consequences that align.
TALK ABOUT IT
Revisit this concept throughout the year. The more you make it upfront and central in your child's mind, the more they will realize the importance of it. Consider creating a weekly or monthly routine of revisiting some of these core character traits.
FOCUS ON ONE WAY TO BE RESPONSIBLE AND SHOW S YOUR CHILD YOU’RE LOOKING FOR
IT
Make it a challenge. Who can win a clean bedroom award? Who can pick up the most pieces of trash? Even over a period of time, who is bringing their dinner plate to the kitchen without reminders? Small challenges encompass several of the above tips and provide the ability to focus on one behavior over and over.
Malcolm White Elementary School
Location: 36 Bow Street, Woburn
Email: hvitagliano@woburnps.com
Phone: (781) 937 8242 ext.16134
Hallie VitagLiano, M.Ed, LMHC
What does Responsibilty Mean?
Responsibility means doing what you are expected to do, taking care of your belongings and commitments, being reliable and dependable, being accountable for your actions, and being willing to make things right when something goes wrong.
Talking Responsibility at Home:
- “What is something you are responsible for at home?”
- “How do you know when something is your responsibility?”
- "What happens when we forget to do something we are responsible for?”
- “Tell me about a time you made a mistake. What did you do to make it right?”
- Notice it: Point out responsibility when you see it: “You remembered to put your backpack away without being reminded. That was responsible!”
- Give them a job: Have your child take ownership of an age-appropriate task such as feeding a pet, putting away toys, setting the table, packing their backpack, or helping with laundry.
- Let them experience natural consequences: When appropriate, allow children to experience what happens when they forget a responsibility rather than immediately fixing it for them.
Family Challenge- "Responsibility of the Week”
Have each family member choose one responsibility they will take ownership of this week. At the end of the week, talk about:
What was my responsibility?
Did I follow through?
What was easy or difficult?
What can I do next week?
Monthly Character Traits & Character Counts Newsletter Links
September:RESPECT
October: RESPONSIBILITY
Novemeber: CITIZENSHIP
December: HONESTY
January: FAIRNESS
February: CARING
March: COURAGE
April: DILIGENCE
May: TRUSTWORTHINESS
June: INTEGRITY