Conflict or disagreement is normal and often happens when children get together. However, hurtful words, gestures, or physical harm are unacceptable ways to deal with conflict and disagreement at school. In guidance class, students learned that if they ever have a “big” problem (one that is scary, dangerous, or someone can get hurt), they need to tell an adult like a parent/guardian or a teacher immediately because someone can get hurt. Students also learned that if they have a “small” problem, they can use some of Kelso Choice’s to peacefully solve the small problem.
Our goal is to teach students several positive ways to manage “small” problems. Students who have “small” problems are encouraged to try at least two of Kelso's Choices before asking an adult they trust for help. Kelso's Choices include the following:
• Go to another game or activity.
• Share and take turns.
• Respectfully talk it over and listen to each other.
• Walk away from the problem.
• Ignore the problem behavior.
• Tell the person to stop the problem behavior.
• Apologize.
• Make a deal or compromise.
• Wait to cool off.
By using Kelso's Choices, our students will develop effective problem-solving skills that they can use again and again. It will help them to deal with conflict in a positive manner and to make appropriate decisions. Knowing what to do will help students reduce the stress and number of conflicts they have at school and at home. We encourage you to become familiar with this program and use it in your home. By working together, we can develop a healthy life skill for young people to use throughout their life.
