Without Exception Newsletter
July 2024
Reflections & Responses
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✅ From the Editor
In their June assembly the United States bishops approved a new document on youth ministry named "Listen, Teach, Send." Sadly, what is shared in this document continues to fall short on pastoral applications for LGBTQ+ young persons and their families. In a section titled "Sharing the Truth in Love," the introductory paragraph uses the word "choice" twice, indicating that church leaders still don't understand adolescent development or the complex processes of identity development. Instead, the institutional church continues to treat LGBTQ+ issues as matters of behavior and morality rather than matters of identity and belonging.
Meanwhile, too many in the ministerial priesthood continue to fall short in their ability to connect with young people who yearn for a relationship with Jesus Christ and the church. While not in the LGBTQ+ population, I want to share this story about a student who traveled with my group on a recent trip to Rome.
One of my students, a 17-year-old boy, was profoundly moved by the opportunity to go to Mass and then walk around inside St. Peter's Basilica. During the visit he was moved by the Spirit to go to confession in order to get the most out of this religious experience. Upon entering the confessional, the student made sure the priest spoke English, and then asked if the priest could help lead him through the sacrament since he was unsure of all the proper steps.
He was met with total silence.
Awkwardly, student continued on with the form of the sacrament from what he remembered. When he finished, the priest told the student to do an examination of conscience. The student was confused, since an examination of conscience typically precedes the sacrament, so the student again asked for some guidance. The priest responded, "Are you Catholic?" and then dismissed the student from the confessional. No guidance, no mercy, no absolution.
Not only is this kind of behavior rude, but it wounds the faith experience of a young person seeking to grow closer to Jesus Christ. I sent this story to the parish leadership at St. Peter's Basilica, but as is often the case I did not receive a response.
I say it again: our church can do better.
✅ Anonymous Student (Somewhere USA)
Catholics often address homosexuals with lists of "you cannot do this” or “this is sinful,” instead of welcoming us into the community. Basically, I want to be treated like an equal part of the Catholic laity.
✅ Anonymous Teacher (Somewhere USA)
Our LGBTQIA+ kiddos will have to face more rejection than the average person in various forms throughout the rest of their lives. So, yes, they will have to learn how to cope with the opinions of others. I get that. But they should be able to feel welcomed, safe, and loved in their school communities.
Records & Reports
- Dr. Ish Ruiz has two new books out this month. First, along with editor Mark Guevarra, Cornerstones: Sacred Stories of LGBTQ+ Employees in Catholic Institutions shares testimonies from LGBTQ+ people who have worked in Catholic schools and parishes. These stories underscore the blessings and challenges faced by many LGBTQ+ church employees, and they portray the lives of people who answered the call to serve in the Catholic Church despite the risk of termination. In many cases, their employments were terminated because of their LGBTQ+ identity. In other cases, employees were retained, offering a model of what is possible by following Jesus’s call to radically inclusive love. Second, in LGBTQ+ Educators in Catholic Schools: Embracing Synodality, Inclusivity, and Justice Ish responds to the controversy of employee terminations with a new theological framework, based on Pope Francis’s vision for a synodal Church. His framework offers a multifaceted approach to this issue by examining the fields of pastoral ministry, sexual morality, ecclesiology, and Catholic social teaching to craft an inclusive synodal vision for Catholic education. More importantly, Ish answers Pope Francis’s calls for a Church that listens by lifting up the stories of LGBTQ+ educators and their invaluable contributions to Catholic schools. The book can be pre-ordered here with discount code RLFANDF25. We are tentatively planning a Zoom event with Ish to celebrate these book launches. More details will follow in a special announcement.
- Calling LGBTQIA+ Catholics. Diane Walsh and Stephanie Durnford are researchers interested in the experiences of individuals in the LGBTQIA+ community who are Catholic. The researchers hope that the results of this study will help mental health professionals support members of this community in culturally appropriate and responsive ways. Participants will share their experiences in a 30 to 90 minute interview, and they will receive a $10 Amazon gift card. You are eligible to participate in this study if you are: Over the age of 18, Identify as a LGBTQIA+ or SSA (same-sex attracted), and Identify as Catholic. Please reach out to the researchers if you have questions or would like to participate in the study. You are also welcome to share this invitation with other potential participants. For questions or to participate in the study, please contact Diane Walsh at dwalsh@mcdaniel.edu or Stephanie Durnford at sdurnford@loyola.edu
- The Family Acceptance Project (FAP) is launching the first online family program to help parents of color who are struggling with their teen’s LGBTQ identity to decrease rejection and increase family support. The program is open to parents and LGBTQ youth of color (ages 14-18) from across the U.S. Dr. Caitlin Ryan – FAP’s Director and her team – conducted the first research on LGBTQ youth and families and developed the first family support model to help ethnically, racially and religiously diverse families to learn to support their LGBTQ children. FAP”s work is carried out in the context of the family’s cultural and religious backgrounds. Dr. Ryan is a Catholic researcher and clinical social worker who has worked on LGBTQ health and mental health for nearly 50 years and whose work has been recognized by major professional and community organizations and by LGBTQ, civic, advocacy, arts and faith-based groups. For information about this new program, contact Dr. Ryan at fap@sfsu.edu.
- GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network) released their 2024 national school climate survey. This survey is about school experiences of youth who are LGBTQIA2S+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual, two-spirit, and more) or questioning. The information shared will be used to work toward safe and affirming schools for LGBTQIA2S+ youth. The survey is intended for students 13 years or older who identify as LGBTQ+ and/or two spirit and attended middle or high school in the US last year.
- The London Jesuit Centre in the United Kingdom is sponsoring a two-day online conference from July 5-6 titled "The Church and 'Gender Theory': Theory, Rhetoric and Practice." The terms “gender theory," and the more hostile “gender ideology," are prominent in Catholic discourse. This rhetoric has been given relatively little attention in Catholic academic inquiry. This poses a problem for a Church that wishes to engage reflectively and reflexively with the challenging and contentious questions that arise around sex, gender, and the other issues that are folded under concerns around "gender theory." This online conference aims to address this deficit, featuring a range of papers exploring Catholic "gender theory" discourse from a range of disciplinary perspectives. More information is available through the link above.
- On the weekend of November 1-3, 2024, Fr. Buddy Noel, Sr. Rochelle Perrier, MSC, and Dr. Brad Leger will be hosting an interfaith retreat for LGBTQ+ persons, their families, and allies. It will be held at the beautiful Feliciana Retreat and Conference Center in Norwood, Louisiana and the theme will be, "Companions on the Journey.” Registration materials will be available soon. Any questions can be directed to Brad at brad@balconsulting.org.
Readings & Resources
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Print Materials. Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), 2024.
Anthony. A Queer Faith. Springtide Research Institute, June 14, 2023.
Baker, Zac et. al. Building an Inclusive Church. A Welcoming Toolkit 3.0. ReconcilingWorks, 2017.
Bennett, Jana. ‘Made in God’s image and likeness’: An introduction to disability theology. America, June 27, 2024.
Bordone, Robert C. The connection between Pride and the Sacred Heart of Jesus. Outreach, June 13, 2024.
Broadfoot, Marla. Families Find Ways to Protect Their LGBTQ Kids. Scientific American, March 19, 2024.
Bruss, Katherine V., Puja Seth, and Guixiang Zhao. Loneliness, Lack of Social and Emotional Support, and Mental Health Issues — United States, 2022. Centers for Disease Control, Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report (MMWR), Vol. 73, No. 24, June 20, 2024.
Committee on Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth. Listen, Teach, Send. United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, 2024.
Evans, Hannah. Be Yourself: The Importance of Affirming Young People’s Identities. Springtide Research Institute, June 14, 2024.
Fagnant, Nick. LGBTQ+ Catholics & the Synodal Process. Commonweal, June 19, 2024.
Hoover, Joe. I tried making sense of Pope Francis’ offensive remarks. I discovered something deeper instead. America, June 13, 2024.
JED. LGBTQIA+ Mental Health. The JED Foundation, N.D.
Justin. Why Ministry to Gay People Might Not Be Working. Empty Chairs, June 28, 2024.
Kuzma, Maxwell. Beyond the Binary: Queer Visibility in Pride Month and All Year. Bondings 2.0, New Ways Ministry, June 28, 2024.
McQuade, Ryan. Our Lady of the Closeted. Ryan McQuade, N.D.
Mental Health America. National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month. Mental Health America, 2024.
Mia. Loving God, Loving Myself. Springtide Research Institute, June 28, 2023
Murphy, Caryle. The most and least educated U.S. religious groups. Pew Research Center, November 4, 2016.
Ruiz, Ish. Cornerstones: Sacred Stories of LGBTQ+ Employees in Catholic Institutions. New Ways Ministry, 2024.
Ruiz, Ish. LGBTQ+ Educators in Catholic Schools: Embracing Synodality, Inclusivity, and Justice. Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, 2024.
Schneider, Nathan. A nun's secret ministry brings hope to the transgender community. Al Jazeera America, March 2, 2014.
Springtide Research Institute. Ensuring Mental Wellness for Transgender and Nonbinary Youth. Springtide Research Institute, June 27, 2024.
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Guidance to States and Communities on Using Federal Funding To Support Mental Health Services for LGBTQI+ Youth. SAMHSA, June 2024.
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. A Practitioner’s Resource Guide: Helping Families to Support Their LGBT Children. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, 2014.
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Top Health Issues for LGBT Populations Information & Resource Kit. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, 2012.
Sweetman, Tim, host. Dr. Josh Packard — The Future of Faith. The Tension Podcast, March 8, 2024.
The Trevor Project and Everytown for Gun Safety. The Relationship Between Firearms, Mass Shootings, and Suicide Risk Among LGBTQ+ Young People. The Trevor Project, 2024.
US Department of Health and Human Services. National Strategy for Suicide Prevention. US Department of Health and Human Services, April 2024.
Van Biema, David. No Body Now But Yours. Outreach, June 13, 2024.
Replays & Reminders
- Regent College (Vancouver, CAN) is offering a course titled "Being Human in God's World: How the Old Testament Helps Us Understand Our Humanity in a Complex & Broken World." This course will explore how the Old Testament speaks of humanity through story and poetry. The portrait of humanity it presents is realistic, engaging many of today's biggest questions and issues: identity, ethnicity, gender, family breakdown, violence in all its forms, economic justice, political wranglings, relating to creation, and living with vulnerability, pain, and death. Yet, through it all, the human person’s call remains clear: to walk in the world as God’s cherished covenantal partner. The course will run July 15 to July 19, 8:30 - 11:30 AM Pacific Time. More information is available here.
The Naming Project Summer Camp will run this summer from July 28 - August 2 in Minnesota. The theme this year is Abundant Life! Sometimes, especially these days, it can be hard to believe in abundant life. Everywhere we look, we see limitations on who we are, on our relationships, and the future ahead of us. God’s promise, over and over again, for all of us, is that we will have abundant life, not limited in any way. This summer, claim that promise of abundant life with The Naming Project, and discover how to ensure others have abundant life as well. Campers will experience large and small group conversation, personal quiet time as well as campfires, crafts, swimming, games, and summer camp fun in the beauty of God’s creation! More information is available here.
Each year, Outreach gathers LGBTQ lay people, clergy, scholars, artists, educators, students and family members to build community, share best practices and worship together. The schedule and registration link are available for the 2024 conference, which is now sold out. The event will be at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. from August 2-4.
- The USCCB Youth and Young Adult Ministries is holding webinars in May, June, and July to assist in diocesan, parish, and school plans for the Annual Global Celebration of Youth and Young Adults, the Solemnity of Jesus Christ, King of the Universe (Christ the King Sunday), and the upcoming Listen, Teach, Send Framework. Please share this webinar flyer with anyone who is serving in ministry with young people and who would be interested in joining for one or more of these sessions.
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