From the Principal's Den
December 2025
Mayville MS/HS
One of the topics that often comes up in school is the difference between bullying and simply being mean or rude. These words are sometimes used interchangeably, but they mean very different things—and understanding those differences helps us respond appropriately and support our students in meaningful ways.
Rude behavior is often unintentional. It might happen when someone interrupts, makes a thoughtless comment, or does something inconsiderate without realizing it. Mean behavior, on the other hand, is intentional—but typically happens once or twice in the heat of the moment. It’s when someone purposefully says or does something to hurt another person.
Bullying is different. Bullying involves a pattern of behavior that is intentional, repeated, and involves a power imbalance. It may be physical, verbal, or social, but it’s about control and harm that happens over time.
When concerns are brought to our attention, we take every report seriously. However, it’s important to understand that not every unkind act meets the definition of bullying, and not every situation leads directly to disciplinary action. Often, the most appropriate response involves critical conversations, education, and ongoing monitoring. In many cases, all we can do in the moment is have the conversation, document what occurred, and continue to keep a close eye on the situation. This consistent documentation helps us identify patterns if they develop and allows us to take stronger action if needed.
Our goal is always to create a safe, respectful, and supportive environment for every student. By working together and reinforcing these distinctions at home and at school, we can help students build empathy, resolve conflicts, and treat one another with kindness.
Here is a link to more information and resources: https://www.stopbullying.gov/.
Sincerely,
Mrs. Jenna Tetil
Mayville MS/HS Principal
